So the breakup has happened and the big question remains: should you stay friends with your ex? Breakups suck, plain and simple, whether your relationship was one week or 20 years. Staying friends after breaking up might seem like a good idea, but should you really do it? Here are 10 reasons why you might not want to stay friends with your ex.
1. You will sleep together
Can you really just hang out and be platonic? Probably not. You're going to get drunk and hook up because that's what you did -- and you are physically attracted to each other. No late night booty calls -- they'll just make it worse.
2. You won't be open to new relationships
By staying friends with your ex, you already have a relationship -- with them. You won't be as open to meeting new people because you will compare them to your ex. Turn that page of your life and begin anew!
3. Respect the new flame
If you do happen to meet a new partner, be respectful to them: cut your ex out of your life for good. Why would your new partner be happy with you speaking to your ex? They won,t so don't do it.
4. On and off isn't a healthy lifestyle
By staying friends, you will get stuck in an on-again off-again type of relationship. You will get back together and break up again over and over, which will lead you on a roller coaster of doom. If you are really meant to be with someone, they won't break up with you.
5. You will always hope to get back together.
When one couple breaks up, usually it's not a mutual choice. Usually one person gets dumped and one dumps them. The dumpee wants to get back together because they still have feelings for the person, so staying friends with them is unfair in the long run and will only increase their suffering.
6. Breaking up won't be easier if you stay friends
By staying friends, we think that our breakup will be easier to deal with. We won't have the pain of not seeing or hearing that person we are so familiar with because we are "still friends," but that will only do more damage int he long run.
7. Someone will get hurt
Even though you feel okay with your break up, seeing your partner move on and in love with someone else is really hard. So just break up and don't try to still be friends.
8. Hanging out isn't going to be fun
You get lunch together and your ex does something you think si cute. You want to hug them and kiss them. Guess what? You can't, because friends don't do that, and you can't just turn off your feelings around your ex.
9. It's unnecessary
Why do you even need to be friends? You have other friends. Go hang out with them and just cut our ex out of your life. It's okay and totally acceptable to do that.
10. If you must stay friends, use Facebook
Social media is just fine for staying friends, and you can also unfollow them and get them off your news feed so you don't actually have to think about them ever again!
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